Reading Attachment Style (Secure, Anxious, Avoidant) in Texts
Secure, anxious, avoidant: our attachment styles, framed by Bowlby and Ainsworth, show even in how we write. The history of texts reveals their signature.
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Articles on relationship psychology, communication patterns, and conversation analysis.
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The Relational Dimensions of an Analysis Report: Affection, Communication, Conflict, Commitment, Balance
A conversation analysis report isn't summed up by a score: it breaks the bond into dimensions. Here's what each measures, and why the detail beats the total.
Read article →The Relational Prognosis: What a Conversation Analysis Measures (and Doesn't)
Can a conversation analysis predict a couple's future? What a relational prognosis honestly measures, its limits, and why it illuminates without ever deciding.
Read article →The Global Relationship Score: How a Conversation Analysis Reads
A global relationship score isn't a report-card grade: it's the synthesis of several dimensions read in a conversation. How to interpret it without over-interpreting it.
Read article →Seen, No Reply: What the Silent \"Read\" Receipt Really Says
\"Read at 10:14 p.m.\" And nothing. The seen-with-no-reply is one of the most painful silences of modern communication. What does it reveal, and how to read it without losing yourself?
Read article →Sternberg: When Passion Fades but Commitment Still Speaks in the Messages
Passion fades, that's normal. But what remains when it drops? Crossing Sternberg's components in messages reveals whether commitment and intimacy take over.
Read article →Sternberg's Triangle (Intimacy, Passion, Commitment) Read in a Conversation
Intimacy, passion, commitment: the three sides of love per Sternberg. Their balance — or imbalance — can be sensed in the substance of the messages exchanged.
Read article →Stonewalling in Writing: Silence as a Wall, Message After Message
Stonewalling is total withdrawal: no more replies, the cut. In writing, this wall of silence leaves precise traces, readable in the rhythm of the messages.
Read article →Trauma Bonding and Intermittent Reinforcement: Why We Stay, Seen in Messages
Why stay in a relationship that hurts? Trauma bonding and intermittent reinforcement cross in messages to create a paradoxical attachment.
Read article →Triangulation by Messages: How You're Made Jealous in Writing
\"My ex texted me again.\" \"Everyone says I've changed thanks to you.\" Triangulation introduces a third party into the conversation to create insecurity. Here's how to spot it.
Read article →Walker's Cycle of Violence: Its Traces in a Conversation
Tension, explosion, honeymoon: the cycle of violence described by Lenore Walker replays in phases. Its traces, in messages, help recognize coercive control.
Read article →Who Texts First? The Initiation Imbalance as a Relationship Signal
Who sends the first message, day after day? This initiation imbalance, invisible day to day, is measurable in black and white across a couple's conversation history.
Read article →Young's Abandonment Schema and Emotional Dependence: Their Traces in Messages
Young's abandonment schema fuels emotional dependence. Crossing the two illuminates why some hold on despite everything — a pattern readable in messages.
Read article →Young's abandonment schema and emotional dependency: their traces in messages
Young's abandonment schema feeds emotional dependency. Looking at the two together explains why some people hold on no matter what — a pattern that is legible in messages.
Read article →Young's Early Schemas, Visible in Your Couple Messages
Abandonment, mistrust, high standards: Jeffrey Young's early schemas replay in our relationships. Their traces appear, repeated, in the message history.
Read article →Future Faking: The Promises Never Kept, Traceable in Your Messages
Future faking means promising a bright future you have no intention of delivering. In messages, those promises leave a trace: here is how to recognize them and measure the gap between words and actions.
Read article →Relationship Audit Questionnaire: Spotting Toxic Patterns
A structured clinical questionnaire to identify manipulation, coercive control and narcissistic traits in your relationship, without judgment.
Read article →How to Know If You Are Highly Sensitive: Manipulation Signs
High sensitivity is a strength, but it can be exploited in toxic relationships. Learn to tell genuine sensitivity from narcissistic coercive control.
Read article →Alcohol as a Control Tool: Beyond the AUDIT Questionnaire in Toxic Relationships
The AUDIT Alcohol Questionnaire (AAQ) assesses alcohol use disorders. Discover how alcohol becomes a tool for manipulation and control in toxic relationships.
Read article →Relationship Audit Test: Uncover Hidden Toxic Signs
An in-depth relationship audit reveals manipulation, coercive control and narcissistic abuse using proven clinical models. Learn how to protect yourself.
Read article →Over 190 applied psychology articles
The Psychology and Serenity blog offers over 190 articles by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner in Nantes. Each article draws on validated psychological models (Gottman, Young, attachment theory, CBT) to offer practical insights.
Couple Communication — Gottman’s 4 horsemen, the 5:1 ratio, stonewalling, NVC
Attachment — Anxious, avoidant, disorganized styles, path to secure attachment
Emotional Dependency — 10 signs, self-assessment tests, CBT strategies
Ghosting & Dating — Ghosting, breadcrumbing, curving, orbiting, zombieing
Manipulation — Gaslighting, coercive control, narcissistic abuse, psychological violence
Infidelity — Understanding, forgiving, trauma bonding, rebuilding
Anxiety & Stress — Relationship anxiety, burnout, rumination, insomnia
Jealousy — Pathological jealousy, retroactive, social media
Breakup & Grief — The 7 stages, no contact, relationship PTSD
Couple & Cohabitation — Moving in, arguments, libido, mental load
Parenting — Parental alienation, co-parenting, blended families
Young Schemas — 18 early schemas, cognitive distortions
Dating Apps — Mental health impact, paradox of choice, dating fatigue
Mental Health — When to consult, online therapy, CBT vs EMDR
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