AI chat analysis: understand your relationship through your messages
When a relationship deteriorates, we want to understand what happened. Messages stay, dated and fixed: they reveal manipulation, control and toxic patterns.
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Articles on relationship psychology, communication patterns, and conversation analysis.
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Emotional Dependence vs Authentic Love: How to Tell Them Apart
Authentic love nourishes; emotional dependence exhausts. Yet they can look alike: intense feelings, obsession, constant need for contact. How to tell?
Read article →Breakup-Reconciliation Cycles: Why Some Couples Keep Looping
A big fight, a breakup, silence, soft messages, a reunion, then it all starts again. Understand why breakup-reconciliation cycles persist and how to break them.
Read article →No Contact After a Toxic Relationship: A Psychological Guide to Radical Breakup
You have finally decided to leave. Not an ordinary breakup but a radical one, where every message, call or attempt at contact brings the chains back.
Read article →Breadcrumbing: How to Recognize This Relational Manipulation and Break Free
Breadcrumbing keeps you hooked with minimal, intermittent contact and vague promises. Learn to spot it in your messages and break free with three CBT steps.
Read article →Absent father syndrome in women: relational impact and healing
An absent father is not always one who left home. How his emotional absence shapes a woman's romantic choices, and how to heal with a CBT approach.
Read article →AI Relationship Conversation Analysis: What to Check Before You Pick a Tool
How to recognize a serious AI-powered relationship text analyzer among dozens of options. Privacy, clinical method, and transparency criteria — plus how ScanMyLove's approach works.
Read article →Sternberg's Theory of Love: The 8 Types of Love and Yours
Sternberg's triangular theory of love: intimacy, passion and commitment combine into 8 types of love. Learn to read your messages and spot toxic patterns.
Read article →Unmasking a Manipulator: Psychological Strategies to Take Back Control
Manipulation is never an isolated act but a repeated, timestamped sequence in your messages. Learn to spot its patterns and take back control with CBT strategies.
Read article →He's Pulling Away: 7 Psychological Reasons and How to React Healthily
Shorter messages, rarer calls, longer delays: seven psychological reasons why he is pulling away, how to read it in your messages and how to respond calmly.
Read article →De-disclosure: when social penetration reverses in your messages
As a CBT practitioner, I often see how relational dynamics show up long before anything is said out loud, through subtle signals.
Read article →Fading Love Maps and Emotional Distance: Knowledge Eroding in Messages
When questions disappear from your messages, mutual knowledge erodes. How the decline of love maps becomes readable, and how to rebuild it.
Read article →Ignored Bids and Fading Affection: The Gottman Build-Up in Your Messages
No crisis, no betrayal — just slow erosion. How ignored bids for connection show up in your messages, and how to reverse the pattern.
Read article →Intermittent reinforcement and breadcrumbing, read in your messages
In the complexity of human relationships, insidious mechanisms can take hold, trapping us in cycles of waiting and disappointment.
Read article →Neuroticism and Escalation: How One Trait Fuels Text Conflict
Neuroticism, one of the Big Five traits, amplifies conflict in written exchanges. How it becomes readable in a couple's message timeline.
Read article →Avoidant Attachment and Dry Texting: Disengagement, Message by Message
Dry texting is rarely a bad mood. Read across months of messages and a pattern of avoidant withdrawal appears, timestamped and undeniable.
Read article →Social Penetration: Reading Disclosure Depth in Your Messages
Altman and Taylor's layers of disclosure are legible in a message timeline. How to spot depth, stagnation and broken reciprocity in your conversations.
Read article →Knapp's Model: Spotting Relationship Stages in Your Texts
Knapp's ten stages, from initiating to termination, are legible in a message timeline. How to read the rise and the unravelling in your conversations.
Read article →Pennebaker's Markers: What 'I' and 'We' Reveal in Texts
James Pennebaker showed that pronouns betray a couple's dynamic. What the balance of 'I' and 'we' reveals in your written conversations.
Read article →Transactional Analysis: Parent, Adult and Child in Your Texts
Berne's ego states are visible in writing. Learn to spot Parent, Adult and Child in your texts and rebalance your transactions.
Read article →Over 190 applied psychology articles
The Psychology and Serenity blog offers over 190 articles by Gildas Garrec, CBT practitioner in Nantes. Each article draws on validated psychological models (Gottman, Young, attachment theory, CBT) to offer practical insights.
Couple Communication — Gottman’s 4 horsemen, the 5:1 ratio, stonewalling, NVC
Attachment — Anxious, avoidant, disorganized styles, path to secure attachment
Emotional Dependency — 10 signs, self-assessment tests, CBT strategies
Ghosting & Dating — Ghosting, breadcrumbing, curving, orbiting, zombieing
Manipulation — Gaslighting, coercive control, narcissistic abuse, psychological violence
Infidelity — Understanding, forgiving, trauma bonding, rebuilding
Anxiety & Stress — Relationship anxiety, burnout, rumination, insomnia
Jealousy — Pathological jealousy, retroactive, social media
Breakup & Grief — The 7 stages, no contact, relationship PTSD
Couple & Cohabitation — Moving in, arguments, libido, mental load
Parenting — Parental alienation, co-parenting, blended families
Young Schemas — 18 early schemas, cognitive distortions
Dating Apps — Mental health impact, paradox of choice, dating fatigue
Mental Health — When to consult, online therapy, CBT vs EMDR
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