Rekindle the Flame: Restoring Desire in a Long-Term Couple
Learn how to rekindle desire in your long-term relationship. A CBT practitioner guides you with concrete strategies to bring passion back.
Read article →Blog — Relationship Psychology
Articles on relationship psychology, communication patterns, and conversation analysis.
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When Love Turns to Obsession: Signs and CBT Solutions
Discover the subtle signs that turn love into obsession. A practical guide by a CBT psychopractitioner to regain a healthy, fulfilling balance in your relationship.
Read article →Anxious attachment and ghosting: why silence hurts so much, read in your texts
For an anxiously attached person, ghosting is not just silence: it is the activation of a deep fear of abandonment. Bringing the two together sheds light on the pain read in your texts.
Read article →Avoidant Attachment and Stonewalling: The Withdrawal That Writes Itself in Silence
When avoidant attachment meets Gottman's stonewalling, silence becomes a defense. Crossing the two explains the withdrawal the messages let us see.
Read article →Avoidant attachment and stonewalling: the withdrawal that writes itself in silence
When avoidant attachment meets Gottman's stonewalling, silence becomes a mode of defense. Crossing the two explains the withdrawal that messages let us see.
Read article →Avoidant attachment and stonewalling: the withdrawal written in silence
When avoidant attachment meets Gottman's stonewalling, silence becomes a mode of defense. Crossing the two explains the withdrawal that messages reveal.
Read article →The Blame-Apology Loop: When You End Up Being the One Who Apologizes
You enter the conversation hurt, you leave it apologizing. This guilt reversal replays message after message — and the written history lays it bare.
Read article →Breaking Points: Spotting in the Timeline the Moments Everything Tipped
A relationship doesn't degrade in one block: it tips at precise moments. Spotting these breaking points in the message timeline helps understand — and sometimes repair.
Read article →Catastrophizing and Breakup Anxiety: The Distortion That Spirals in Messages
A curt message becomes 'they're going to leave me': catastrophizing fuels breakup anxiety. Crossing the distortion and the fear shows how the mind turns a detail into the end of the world.
Read article →Chapman's 5 Love Languages, Revealed by Your Conversation
Words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, touch: Chapman's five love languages also show in messages. Spotting yours and the other's.
Read article →Coercive Control: The Gradual Isolation That Reads in the Message History
Coercive control advances in small steps, including gradual isolation. Crossing the two shows how, message after message, a person's world shrinks.
Read article →The Cognitive Distortions That Appear in Black and White in Your Messages
Overgeneralization, mind reading, catastrophizing: the cognitive distortions described by CBT can be spotted by precise words. In writing, they leave a readable trace.
Read article →Cyclical Promises: The Periodic Return of the Same Never-Kept Commitments
\"I'll change,\" \"this time I promise\": the same commitments return in cycles, never kept. The written history reveals the repetition memory erases.
Read article →The Decline of Affectionate Words: A Measurable Signal Over Time
The 'I love yous,' the little nicknames, the hearts: their gradual rarefaction is one of the most reliable signals of a bond wearing thin. The written history makes it measurable.
Read article →DISC Profile: Recognizing Communication Styles in Your Messages
Dominant, Influential, Steady, Conscientious: the DISC model describes four communication styles. Recognizing them in messages defuses many couple misunderstandings.
Read article →\"Where Are You? Who With?\": Control Disguised as Care in Messages
\"Where are you? Who with? Why aren't you answering?\" When solicitude turns to surveillance, the frequency and tone of messages reveal it in the history.
Read article →Disorganized Attachment: Decoding Contradictory Signals in a Conversation
Wanting the other and pushing them away at once: disorganized attachment produces baffling messages. Crossing the model with the conversation helps understand these contradictions.
Read article →Dry Texting: When Short Replies Betray Disengagement
\"Ok.\" \"Yes.\" \"Cool.\" Dry texting — those curt, minimal replies — is rarely trivial: it tells, message after message, a gradual disengagement. Here's how to read it.
Read article →The Power and Control Wheel (Duluth) Decoded in Messages
Intimidation, isolation, minimizing, blackmail: the Duluth wheel maps the levers of control. Each leaves spottable traces in messages.
Read article →Emojis and Punctuation: The Hidden Tone Behind Couple Messages
A period, an 'ok.', a vanished emoji: in writing, tone passes through punctuation and emojis. Their evolution over time betrays the state of a bond.
Read article →Over 190 applied psychology articles
The Psychology and Serenity blog offers over 190 articles by Gildas Garrec, CBT psychopractitioner in Nantes. Each article draws on validated psychological models (Gottman, Young, attachment theory, CBT) to offer practical insights.
Couple Communication — Gottman’s 4 horsemen, the 5:1 ratio, stonewalling, NVC
Attachment — Anxious, avoidant, disorganized styles, path to secure attachment
Emotional Dependency — 10 signs, self-assessment tests, CBT strategies
Ghosting & Dating — Ghosting, breadcrumbing, curving, orbiting, zombieing
Manipulation — Gaslighting, coercive control, narcissistic abuse, psychological violence
Infidelity — Understanding, forgiving, trauma bonding, rebuilding
Anxiety & Stress — Relationship anxiety, burnout, rumination, insomnia
Jealousy — Pathological jealousy, retroactive, social media
Breakup & Grief — The 7 stages, no contact, relationship PTSD
Couple & Cohabitation — Moving in, arguments, libido, mental load
Parenting — Parental alienation, co-parenting, blended families
Young Schemas — 18 early schemas, cognitive distortions
Dating Apps — Mental health impact, paradox of choice, dating fatigue
Mental Health — When to consult, online therapy, CBT vs EMDR
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