Personal Boundaries: Why Saying No Is So Hard — and How to Learn
Saying no is an emotional skill that many never learned. Fear of rejection, guilt, submission patterns: understand why and learn to set your boundaries.
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Articles on relationship psychology, communication patterns, and conversation analysis.
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Getting Your Ex Back: The Honest Psychological Guide (Without Manipulation)
How to get your ex back? Analysis of strategies that actually work according to psychology: attachment, Gottman, Young's schemas. Complete and honest guide.
Read article →ScanMyLove: Analyze Your Couple Conversations with Psychology
ScanMyLove analyzes your WhatsApp, Telegram, or SMS conversations using 14 validated psychological models. Discover how the platform works in detail.
Read article →The Era of Infinite Choice: How Dating Apps Transform Female Psychology
Abundance, FOMO, FOBO, validation, endless conversations, caution... How dating apps are durably transforming female psychology. Complete psychological analysis.
Read article →The Man in the Digital Desert: Male Psychology and Dating Apps
Match deserts, romantic disengagement, ghosting, romance scams... The statistics and psychology behind men's experience on dating apps. Complete analysis with data.
Read article →Online Psychological Tests: 68 Tests Validated by Psychology and Serenity
Discover 68 online psychological tests covering personality, anxiety, ADHD, OCD, phobias and relationships. Tests, detailed PDF reports for €1.99.
Read article →He's becoming distant: understand, don't panic, and restore balance
He's responding less, seems elsewhere? Understand why a man is pulling away, the pitfalls to avoid, and how to restore balance without losing your footing.
Read article →She's becoming distant: the 12 principles to reverse the dynamic
When a woman starts to pull away, most men do exactly what they shouldn't — beg, bombard with messages, show neediness. Result: she loses even more respect and disappears for good.
Read article →Emotional Dependency: The Proof in Your Messages
Do your messages betray emotional dependency? Discover the revealing patterns: frequency, follow-ups, need for validation. Objective analysis.
Read article →Emotional Dependency: Test Your Level in 30 Questions
Are you emotionally dependent? This 30-question test evaluates your relationship patterns, fear of abandonment, and relational dynamics.
Read article →Gaslighting: How to Detect It in Your WhatsApp Messages
How to spot gaslighting in your WhatsApp conversations? Typical phrases, manipulation patterns, and what analysis reveals.
Read article →Narcissistic Personality Disorder: What Your Text Messages Reveal
Am I with a narcissistic abuser? Discover the manipulation patterns detectable in your messages: love bombing, devaluation, gaslighting.
Read article →Should I leave my partner? The objective analysis
Stay or go? Instead of going in circles, discover what objective analysis of your messages reveals about your relationship. Prognosis based on 14 models.
Read article →Toxic Relationship: What Your Messages Really Reveal
Learn how to objectively analyze your couple's messages to detect signs of a toxic relationship. Gottman, Karpman, and Walker models.
Read article →ADHD or Manipulation? What Your Messages Reveal
Forgotten plans, delayed responses, broken promises: is it ADHD or manipulation? The analysis of your messages provides an objective answer.
Read article →Curving: When Rejection Happens Gently on Dating Apps
Curving is the art of discreet rejection: evasive replies, cancelled plans, interest that fades without ever completely disappearing. How to recognize it and protect yourself.
Read article →Haunting and orbiting: When your ex watches you silently on social media
Haunting (or orbiting) is a form of passive presence after a breakup: likes, story views, silent interactions. Why your ex does this and how to respond.
Read article →No Contact: Healing or Strategy? What Psychology Really Says
Is no contact a reconquest strategy or a healing tool? The neuroscience of breakups, attachment theory, and practical implementation.
Read article →The Silent Treatment: What Your Messages (or Their Absence) Really Reveal
The silent treatment is one of the most painful relational behaviors. Discover what it really reveals about your relationship and how to respond to it.
Read article →Why Get Dumped by Text? Psychology of Ghosting and Digital Breakups
Discover the psychological mechanisms behind breakups via text and ghosting: avoidance, emotional immaturity, narcissism, digital culture.
Read article →Over 190 applied psychology articles
The Psychology and Serenity blog offers over 190 articles by Gildas Garrec, CBT psychopractitioner in Nantes. Each article draws on validated psychological models (Gottman, Young, attachment theory, CBT) to offer practical insights.
Couple Communication — Gottman’s 4 horsemen, the 5:1 ratio, stonewalling, NVC
Attachment — Anxious, avoidant, disorganized styles, path to secure attachment
Emotional Dependency — 10 signs, self-assessment tests, CBT strategies
Ghosting & Dating — Ghosting, breadcrumbing, curving, orbiting, zombieing
Manipulation — Gaslighting, coercive control, narcissistic abuse, psychological violence
Infidelity — Understanding, forgiving, trauma bonding, rebuilding
Anxiety & Stress — Relationship anxiety, burnout, rumination, insomnia
Jealousy — Pathological jealousy, retroactive, social media
Breakup & Grief — The 7 stages, no contact, relationship PTSD
Couple & Cohabitation — Moving in, arguments, libido, mental load
Parenting — Parental alienation, co-parenting, blended families
Young Schemas — 18 early schemas, cognitive distortions
Dating Apps — Mental health impact, paradox of choice, dating fatigue
Mental Health — When to consult, online therapy, CBT vs EMDR
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